Posts Tagged ‘Valentine’s Day’

Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2012

Today is Valentine’s Day.

This will be a great day for some people and a lousy day for many others.  I believe that many in  American society have a distorted view of love.  True love is not simply the infatuation of a moment, or of a few weeks or months, or even years: but rather it is a life-long commitment of going through life together.

For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live.

True love is not a fleeting passion,  but a commitment to share in the varied experiences of life together; and to find ways to make the most of the journey.

Valentine’s Day

February 16, 2009

Well another Valentine’s Day has come and gone.  I wonder how many people enjoyed the day?  I sometimes wonder if we don’t create problems for ourselves by thinking that life should resemble a romance novel, or a romantic comedy.  I sometimes think that people evaluate their experiences by comparing them to what they watch on television or read in a book. 

Romance books are not real life.

Life is not a movie.

In order for a marriage to succeed we need to be committed.  We need to take seriously our wedding vows; “For better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as we both shall live.”

Some people seem to think that when the marriage, or relationship no longer resembles the ideal presented in fictional media, that it is time to bail.  Rather, that is when our integrity is tested.  Will we remain committed to each other?  Will we work through our problems?  Will we recognize that life is real, and people are not perfect?

I believe that a key component to a happy marriage is committment.  You need to work at improving your relationship.  You need to be committed to each other no matter what comes.  

If you want to enjoy the beauty and fragrance of the roses, you need to watch out for the thorns.