Archive for December 31st, 2009

Talk to, not About

December 31, 2009

“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”  Many of us probably remember our mothers giving us that piece of social instruction.  It was good advice, and perhaps it needs to be instilled in a new generation. 

There are times when words of correction need to be expressed.  However, these words of correction should be given to the person needing correction, not to general audiences. 

If you have a problem with someones actions then you should speak to that person.  All too often, instead of offering words of correction or rebuke, we will simply talk about that individual to other people.  Did you hear about so and so?  Can you even believe what they did?  Worse yet, some will accept stories that are told to them, pass judgement on the individual, and then repeat the story, without ever asking about the other side.

Talk to people, not about them…unless it’s good of course.  Almost no one minds if you say nice things about them.